Perfect Daughters

Adult Daughters of Alcoholics

Author: Robert J. Ackerman

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757396305

Category: Self-Help

Page: 350

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This new edition of Perfect Daughters, a pivotal book in the ACoA movement, identifies what differentiates the adult daughters of alcoholics from other women. When this groundbreaking book first appeared over ten years ago, Dr. Ackerman identified behavior patterns shared by daughters of alcoholics. Adult daughters of alcoholics-"perfect daughters" -operate from a base of harsh and limiting views of themselves and the world. Having learned that they must function perfectly in order to avoid unpleasant situations, these women often assume responsibility for the failures of others. They are drawn to chemically dependent men and are more likely to become addicted themselves. More than just a text that identifies these behavior patterns, this book collects the thoughts, feelings and experiences of twelve hundred perfect daughters, offering readers an opportunity to explore their own life's dynamics and thereby heal and grow. This edition contains updated information throughout the text, and completely new material, including chapters on eating disorders and abuse letters from perfect daughters in various stages of recovery, and helpful, affirming suggestions from Dr. Ackerman at the end of every chapter. This book is essential for every one who found validation, hope, courage and support in the pages of the original Perfect Daughters, as well as new readers and every therapist who confronts these issues. Also includes: a comprehensive reference section and complete index.

My Mama's Waltz

Author: Eleanor Agnew,Sharon Robideaux

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 9780671013868

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 336

View: 3324


Offers emotional support to women hoping to overcome the trauma of an alcoholic mother, presenting advice on how to live a fulfilling life and furnishing personal case stories of other survivors who have achieved wholeness. Reprint. Tour.

Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic

Author: M. D. Bey,R. N. Bey

Publisher: M. Evans

ISBN: 1590771737

Category: Self-Help

Page: 240

View: 6537


The child of an alcoholic develops patterns of behavior during childhood which carry over into adult life. As children they were taught to cover up the family secret and suppress their feelings. No matter what is going on, as adults, when asked how she or he is doing your partner will likely answer "fine." Distrust, fear of abandonment, and sensitivity to criticism are all major issues for your adult child. Recognizing these patterns and changing the ones that cause problems will help you and your partner enjoy a deeper relationship.

Adult Children of Alcoholics

Expanded Edition

Author: Janet G. Woititz

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757393411

Category: Self-Help

Page: 135

View: 5059


In the 1980's, Janet Woititz broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. In this updated edition of her bestseller she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of Adult Children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics.


Author: Herbert L. Gravitz,Julie D. Bowden

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1439147906

Category: Psychology

Page: 144

View: 6481


Rich with insight and awareness, Recovery explores the secrets, fears, hopes and issues that confront adult children of alcoholics. Authors and widely respected therapists and ACOA workshop leaders Herbert Gravitz and Julie Bowden detail in a clear question-and-answer format the challenges of control and inadequacy that ACOAs face as they struggle for recovery and understanding, stage-by-stage: Survival * Emergent Awareness * Core Issues * Transformations * Integration * Genesis. If you feel troubled by your post, Recovery will start you on the path of self-awareness, as it explores the searching questions adult children of alcoholics seek to hove answered: * How con I overcome my need for control? * Do all ACOAs ploy the some kind of roles in the family? * How do I overcome my fear of intimacy? * What is all-or-none functioning? * How can ACOAs maintain self-confidence and awareness after recovery? * How do ACOAs handle the family after understanding its influence? * And many other important questions about your post, family and feelings. Written with warmth, joy and real understanding, Recovery will inspire you to meet the challenges of the post and overcome the obstacles to your happiness.

After the Tears

Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma

Author: Jane Middelton-Moz,Lorie Dwinell

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757393373

Category: Self-Help

Page: 312

View: 5271


The trauma and grief of growing up in an alcoholic or addicted family create a lifetime of baggage. If you grew up in an addicted family, the dysfunction that permeated every aspect of your childhood may have seemed 'normal,' and you may not even realize the level of affect alcohol still has on your adult life—whether or not you drink. If you are one of the millions of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs), the cost of your childhood pain can be unbearable. You may have learned how to 'survive,' but are you 'living' your life? Do you fear normal conflict? Do you blame yourself when something goes wrong—even when it isn't your fault? Are you a chaos junkie? Or do you just fear relationships because they are too difficult or too painful? Having devoted much of their careers to working with ACOAs, therapists Jane Middelton-Moz and Lorie Dwinell now take a deeper look into the origin and cost of childhood pain, as well as the grief resolution process that is integral to recovery. This revised and expanded edition of their groundbreaking 1986 hit After the Tears discusses the latest research and offers insights on living a good life despite a dysfunctional childhood by tackling issues such as intimacy, sibling relationships, codependency, breaking the alcoholic pattern, building a relationship with the inner child, forgiveness, and opening a window to spirituality.

Before the Door Closes

A Daughter's Journey with Her Alcoholic Father

Author: Judith Hall Simon

Publisher: WestBowPress

ISBN: 1490808957

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 218

View: 1916


Mind-altering drugs shackle her father to dementia. As if it were a holding pen for rotting trash, authorities in the nursing home system dispensed him to that dark cell. For the second time in their lives, Judy desperately searches for the answer to free her father. While growing up in an alcoholic environment, she struggled to find what drove him to drink. She was sure if she found it she could cure her father of alcoholism and make everyone happy. Judy finds the liberating key to his present imprisonment, but she cannot turn the lock until she revisits and reveals the shameful secret carefully and faithfully guarded for decades. While doing so, she confronts her fears and emotional wounds carved within a dysfunctional family. That is not enough, though, to rescue him, for the two are now ensnared by an unfamiliar adversary—nursing home neglect and abuse—that Judy must battle every day for her defenseless father. Through it all she longs for him to believe he is and always was important, worthy, loved. Are you a child of an alcoholic? a caregiver of the elderly? a seeker of love’s passages? This heart-gripping story shares pain and victory. "Before the Door Closes is very well written and revealing of the pains and triumphs of Judith Hall Simon's journey with an alcoholic father. While reading this book I felt that I was reading the journey of only one person not two. Judith reveals just how overwhelming an alcoholic father can be and how one's identity can be taken over by an alcoholic parent. Her book teaches and touches at the same time. I recommend it to the millions of adult children of alcoholics and to those who love them. Nice work!" ROBERT J. ACKERMAN, Ph.D., author of Perfect Daughters and a co-founder of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics

The Healing Journey for Adult Children of Alcoholics

Author: Daryl E. Quick

Publisher: IVP Books

ISBN: 9780830813285

Category: Religion

Page: 180

View: 5404


I feel like people leave me abandoned all the time. Sometimes I'm so afraid for what seems like no reason. I just don't seem to have any energy. Why do the same thoughts keep racing through my mind? I usually don't feel happy or sad. If there isn't real excitement, I feel bored. I want to be close to people, but I just never make it. Do you see yourself in this list? Children of alcoholic parents have suffered wounds that affect their lives for years to come. They learn to protect themselves from the pattern of hurt that they have come to expect in life. The results of such constant vigilance against pain can range from ulcers, sleeplessness, addictions, depression and anger to a string of broken relationships. But adult children of alcoholics can go through a healing journey that will help them recover from their painful past and be set free to live as God intended. Daryl Quick takes readers step by step through new ways of feeling, thinking and acting that will replace the ineffective patterns they have been locked into for years. With moving stories and helpful exercises, Quick shows how adult children of alcoholics can find hope and healing. A book for those who want to recover from their past.

Treating adult children of alcoholics

a developmental perspective

Author: Stephanie Brown

Publisher: Wiley-Interscience


Category: Psychology

Page: 333

View: 6633


Contents: Introduction; The Children of Alcoholics; The Alcoholic Family Environment; Interactions, Patterns, and Adaptations; Trauma and Defensive Adaptations; The Impact of Parental Alcoholism on Attachment; The Impact of Parental Alcoholism on Identity Formation; The Process of Recovery--Theory; Preparation for Recovery--Drinking and Transition; Early Recovery; Ongoing Recovery; What Is Progress--Growing Up, Growing Out, and Coming Home. Index. References.

It Will Never Happen to Me

Growing Up with Addiction As Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults

Author: Claudia Black

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 159285771X

Category: Self-Help

Page: 216

View: 8077


With her reassuring and informative approach, Claudia Black expertly identifies common issues faced by children who grew up in alcoholic families--shame, neglect, unreasonable role expectations, and physical abuse. First published 20 years ago, It Will Never Happen to Me is the definitive book/workbook for adult children of alcoholics.With her reassuring and informative approach, Claudia Black expertly identifies common issues faced by children who grew up in alcoholic families--shame, neglect, unreasonable role expectations, and physical abuse. Using narratives and profiles, she describes survival techniques characteristic of children raised in alcoholic families, including the unspoken laws of don't talk, don't trust, and don't feel. First explaining how such learned responses cause difficulties in adulthood, Black carefully guides readers in identifying self-defeating, destructive behaviors and finding a healthier, happier way to live.Key features and benefits: a proven seller by a respected recovery authorcontains easy-to-follow, useful exercisescan be used by individuals or in a therapeutic setting.

The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome

From Discovery to Recovery

Author: Wayne Kritsberg

Publisher: Bantam

ISBN: 9780553272796

Category: Self-Help

Page: 158

View: 4725


Kritsberg outlines a complete self-help recovery program based on his unique Family Integration System, with techniques such as exploring family myths, writing letters to oneself as a child, daily affirmations, and dialoguing with absent family members.

A workbook for healing

adult children of alcoholics

Author: Patty McConnell

Publisher: Winston Pr

ISBN: 9780866835268

Category: Political Science

Page: 170

View: 3661


Gives individuals who were raised by alcoholic parents advice on evaluating childhood experiences, resolving painful memories, and finding peace of mind

The ACOA's guide to raising healthy children

a parenting handbook for adult children of alcoholics

Author: Jim Mastrich,James Mastrich,William J. Birnes

Publisher: Macmillan General Reference

ISBN: 9780020405818

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 271

View: 4526


This annual baseball statistics reference provides comprehensive, in-depth examinations of many aspects of every major league baseball players' performance

Adult Children Secrets of Dysfunctional Families

The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families

Author: John Friel,Linda Friel

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757393357

Category: Self-Help

Page: 200

View: 3477


It is estimated that as many as 34 million people grew up in alcoholic homes. But what about the rest of us? What about families that had no alcoholism, but did have perfectionism, workaholism, compulsive overeating, intimacy problems, depression, problems in expressing feelings, plus all the other personality traits that can produce a family system much like an alcoholic one? Countless millions of us struggle with these kinds of dysfunctions every day, and until very recently we struggled alone. Pulling together both theory and clinical practice, John and Linda Friel provide a readable explanation of what happened to us and how we can rectify it.

Lifeskills for Adult Children

Author: Janet G. Woititz,Alan Garner

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757316395

Category: Self-Help

Page: 120

View: 460


From the author of the New York Times bestseller Adult Children of Alcoholics -- a wonderful book that affirms and encourages AcoAs by developing skills for living. Imagine how good you would feel if: You could stand up for yourself without losing your temper You could make a decision without second guessing yourself You didn't have that sense of worthlessness every time someone criticized you You could learn how to say no and stick with it In Lifeskills for Adult Children you can learn how to do these things and more. This book is designed specifically for Adult Children and teaches skills to make your complex adult life easier, while improving your sense of self-worth. Examples are provided to help clarify the lessons and exercises are given to help you practice your new skills. So, if you have difficulty: Asking for what you want Solving problems Handling criticism Saying no read Lifeskills for Adult Children - you'll be glad you did.

Adult Children

Alcoholic/dysfunctional Families

Author: Adult Children of Alcoholics (Association)

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780978979706

Category: Adult children of alcoholics

Page: 646

View: 6257


This is the official ACA Fellowship Text that is Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization (ACA WSO) Conference Approved Literature. Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families (ACA) is an independent 12 Step and 12 Tradition anonymous program.

The ACOA Trauma Syndrome

The Impact of Childhood Pain on Adult Relationships

Author: Tian Dayton

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757316441

Category: Psychology

Page: 312

View: 8300


Growing up in a home where there is addiction or relationship trauma puts a child at great risk for long-term, post-traumatic stress effects that adversely compromise adult relationships. Bestselling author, psychologist, and psychodramatist Tian Dayton examines this trauma through an exploration of the way the brain and body process frightening or painful emotions and experiences in childhood, and she shows how these traumas can become catalysts for unhealthy, self-medicating behaviors including drug and alcohol abuse, food issues, and sex, gambling, and shopping addictions. Through Dr. Dayton's insightful analysis and thoughtful examination, Adult Children of Alcoholics will learn how and why the pain they experienced in childhood plays out in their adult partnering and parenting, and they will learn how to restore health and happiness through their resilience.

Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics

For Adult Children of Alcoholics

Author: Rokelle Lerner

Publisher: HCI

ISBN: 9780932194275

Category: Self-Help

Page: 372

View: 913


The messages that we give to ourselves are the most important messages we hear. The internal briefings and conversations we hold determine our attitudes, our behavior and the course of our lives. If, as children, we were criticized and shamed, our internal dialogue will be self-deprecating. If we are used to large doses of self-imposed sarcasm and negative reviews of our daily performance, we gradually mutilate our self-esteem, our creativity and our spirit. As adult children of alcoholics, we can continue to remain in the past and believe the negatives that we were taught; or we can change our beliefs with affirmative thoughts that can set us free into better and more expansive experiences. What we choose to believe will ultimately rule our world. Affirmations are a way to wake us up--to make us fully conscious and aware of the daily choices we make. And, as we learn to direct our thoughts, our feelings and behavior will naturally follow.

The Complete ACOA Sourcebook

Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love

Author: Janet G. Woititz

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0757395414

Category: Self-Help

Page: 500

View: 6023


When they were first released in the 1980s, Janet Woititz's groundbreaking works, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Struggle for Intimacy and The Self-Sabotage Syndrome, provided a new message of hope to adult children who had grown up in the shadow of alcoholic parents. Their message today is as profound and timeless as it was two decades ago. Now, in this complete collection, readers will learn again the insight and healing power of Janet Wotitiz's words. The Complete ACoA Sourcebook is a compilation of three of Dr. Woititz's classic books, addressing head-on the symptoms of The Adult Children of Alcoholics syndrome and providing strategies for living a normal life as an adult. Readers will find help for themselves: at home, in intimate relationships and on the job. They will discover the reasons for the way they think, believe and feel about themselves; ACoAs often feel isolated, have difficulty in relationships, in the workplace and in feeling good about themselves. Readers who are familiar with Woititz's work will find wisdom once again in this classic collection. Those new to ACoA will gain fresh insight into their behavior patterns and find an avenue for self-love and healing. Noted ACoA expert Dr. Robert Ackerman, author of the best-selling Perfect Daughters and Silent Sons, provides a foreword and explains why Janet Woititz's message will continue to help millions of readers for generations to come.

Will I Ever be Good Enough?

Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

Author: Karyl McBride

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1416551328

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 243

View: 517


A resource for daughters of mothers with narcissistic personality disorder explains how to manage feelings of inadequacy and abandonment in the face of inappropriate maternal expectations and conditional love, in a step-by-step guide that shares recommendations for creating a personalized program for self-protection and recovery. 50,000 first printing.