Becoming Attached

First Relationships and how They Shape Our Capacity to Love

Author: Robert Karen

Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA

ISBN: 9780195115017

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 498

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The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? Why do we repeat with our own children--seemingly against our will--the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life. Karen begins by tracing the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology. Karen tells about their personal and professional struggles, their groundbreaking discoveries, and the recent flowering of attachment theory research in universities all over the world, making it one of the century's most enduring ideas in developmental psychology. In a world of working parents and makeshift day care, the need to assess the impact of parenting styles and the bond between child and caregiver is more urgent than ever. Karen addresses such issues as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? Is day care harmful for children under one year? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?, and he demonstrates how different approaches to mothering are associated with specific infant behaviors, such as clinginess, avoidance, or secure exploration. He shows how these patterns become ingrained and how they reveal themselves at age two, in the preschool years, in middle childhood, and in adulthood. And, with thought-provoking insights, he gives us a new understanding of how negative patterns and insecure attachment can be changed and resolved throughout a person's life. The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.

Happier People Healthier Planet

Author: Teresa Belton

Publisher: SilverWood Books

ISBN: 1781322619

Category: Psychology

Page: 372

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Happier People Healthier Planet' addresses the diametrically opposed issues of personal wellbeing and ecological destruction as inseparable concerns. It shows how carefully attending to what really matters for personal thriving will also protect the environment.Most human beings are strongly attracted to material possessions, novelty and ever greater comfort and convenience, yet paradoxically, for those with a decent basic standard of living, growing affluence has not resulted in increased subjective wellbeing: overconsumption does not make us happy. Worse, our unchecked appetites for 'stuff' are fast undermining the delicately balanced life-support system provided by the natural world. It is perfectly possible to live a rewarding life without consuming more than we need, and we must all find out how to do so if we are to preserve the hospitality of the Earth.This book, unusual in the diversity of its perspectives, investigates the factors that are likely to encourage a positive preference for lifestyles that are sustainable. Informed and illustrated by insights from a wealth of sources, both academic and popular, it includes contributions from many individuals living in Britain who actively pursue lives of modest material consumption which they find fulfilling. These 'modest consumers' offer challenge, inspiration and reassurance in the search for better ways of living.

Du sollst nicht merken

Die Realität der Kindheit und die Dogmen der Psychoanalyse

Author: Alice Miller

Publisher: Suhrkamp Verlag

ISBN: 3518750577

Category: Psychology

Page: 416

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»Du sollst nicht merken« - nämlich: was dir in deiner Kindheit angetan wurde und was du in Wahrheit selbst tust - ist ein niemals ausgesprochenes, aber sehr früh verinnerlichtes Gebot, dessen Wirksamkeit im Unbewußten des einzelnen und der Gesellschaft Alice Miller zu beschreiben versucht. Ihre Analyse dieses Gebots führt sie zu einer grundsätzlichen Kritik an der Triebtheorie Sigmund Freuds. Die Wirksamkeit des Gebots »Du sollst nicht merken« zeigt sie anhand ihrer Analysen von Träumen, Märchen und literarischen Werken auf, wobei aus ihrer Auseinandersetzung mit dem Œuvre Franz Kafkas ein neues Kafka-Bild hervorgeht und implizit eine Theorie menschlicher Kreativität.

Das Achtsamkeits-Buch

Author: Halko Weiss,Michael E. Harrer,Thomas Dietz

Publisher: Klett-Cotta

ISBN: 3608101438

Category: Self-Help

Page: 303

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Das jahrtausendealte, aus dem Buddhismus stammende Konzept erobert die westliche Welt: Achtsamkeit bringt eine neue Qualität in unser Leben, die größeres Glück und mehr Erfüllung ermöglicht. Auf der Basis langjähriger Erfahrungen zeigen die Autoren praxisnah, wie Achtsamkeit im täglichen Leben und speziell in beratenden und heilenden Berufen genutzt werden kann. Das jahrtausendealte, aus dem Buddhismus stammende Konzept erobert die westliche Welt: Achtsamkeit bringt eine neue Qualität in unser Leben, die größeres Glück und mehr Erfüllung ermöglicht. Auf der Basis langjähriger Erfahrungen zeigen die Autoren praxisnah, wie Achtsamkeit im täglichen Leben und speziell in beratenden und heilenden Berufen genutzt werden kann. Achtsamkeit als Weg - zu innerer Klarheit - zu Ruhe, innerem Frieden und Gelassenheit - zur Selbsterforschung und zu persönlichem Wachstum - zu wohlwollender Selbstfürsorge und effektiver Selbstführung - zu intensiverem Erleben, mehr Lebensfreude und Lebensqualität - und persönliche und professionelle Beziehungen heilsam zu gestalten Die Autoren sind Pioniere in der professionellen Anwendung von Achtsamkeit und erklären, - was Achtsamkeit ist, - wie sie wirkt, - wie sie angewendet und genutzt werden kann.

Fruitful Embraces

Sexuality, Love, and Justice

Author: Evelyn E. & James D. Whitehead

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 1491744138

Category: Religion

Page: 226

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Sexuality and justice often seem odd bedfellows. Sexual embraces of intimacy and passion thrive in our private lives, while justice safeguards the laws and duties that govern the public realm. Yet intuitively, we sense there are deeper connections. Both sexuality and justice support the holistic ideal proclaimed by the early Christian writer Ireneaus: the glory of God is the human person fully alive. Evelyn and James Whitehead combine professional expertise as a psychologist and historian of religion as well as personal experiences and extensive research to explore the interplay of sexuality, love, and justice on the spiritual journey today. While drawing on biblical themes and contemporary psychological insight, the Whiteheads examine modern experiences of attachment and vulnerability, marriage and friendship, compassion and sexual diversity, and the psychological and spiritual experiences of transgender persons—a new and often bewildering consideration for many Christians. Included is a reflection on a prophetic Christian ministry in support of sexuality and justice that illustrates the importance of moral awareness and sensual attunement to the world. Fruitful Embraces utilizes Christian theology and effective pastoral ministry to explore the vital connections between sexuality and Christian spirituality and links between compassion and justice that will encourage anyone on a spiritual journey to open their hearts and minds to the extravagant diversity of creation.

Attached at the Heart

Eight Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children

Author: Barbara Nicholson,Lysa Parker

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 0757317464

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 384

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"Trust me. This is the only baby book you'll ever need! It's amazing, heartwarming, and completely user-friendly. Just add your heart!" --Christiane Northrup, MD, author of Mother-Daughter Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause, and Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom Attached at the Heart offers readers practical parenting advice for the modern age. In its most basic form, "attachment parenting" is instinctive. A crying baby is comforted and kept close to parents for protection. If hungry, he or she is breastfed. And while it is understood that there is no such thing as perfect parenting, research suggests that there is a strong correlation between a heightened sense of respect, empathy, and affection in those children raised the "attachment parenting" way. In this controversial book, readers will gain much needed insight into childrearing while learning to trust the intuitive knowledge of their child, ultimately building a strong foundation that will strengthen the parent-child bond. Using the Eight Principles of Parenting, readers will learn: How to prepare for baby before birth Why breastfeeding is a must for busy moms When to start feeding solid food How to respond to temper tantrums Sleeping safety guidelines and the benefits of cosleeping Tips for short separation How to practice positive discipline and its rewards Tips for finding and maintaining balance The benefits of using a baby sling and implementing infant massage Tips on dealing with criticism from those opposed or unfamiliar with AP style The dangers surrounding traditional discipline styles of parenting Contrary to popular belief, "attachment parenting" has been practiced in one form or another since recorded history. Over the years, it had been slowly replaced by a more detached parenting style—a style that is now believed by experts to be a lead contributing factor to suicide, depression, and violence. The concept of "attachment parenting"—a term originally coined by parenting experts William and Martha Sears—has increasingly been validated by research in many fields of study, such as child development, psychology, and neuroscience. Also known as "conscious parenting," "natural parenting," "compassionate parenting," or "empathic parenting," its goal is to stimulate optimal child development. While many attachment-parenting recommendations likely counter popular societal beliefs, authors Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker are quick to point out that the benefits outweigh the backlash of criticism that advocates of detached parenting may impose.

Infant Massage--Revised Edition

A Handbook for Loving Parents

Author: Vimala Schneider McClure

Publisher: Bantam

ISBN: 9780307574794

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 336

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Discover the gentle art of Infant Massage... In this completely updated version of her renowned classic, Vimala McClure, founder of the International Association of Infant Massage, and its premier proponent in the United States, helps you master the techniques of infant massage so you can incorporate this joyful and wonderful healing art into your baby's life. She shows you why a daily massage can be one of the greatest gifts you give your child...and yourself. For generations mothers the world over have known that the soft stroke of their hands soothes, calms, and communicates their love to their babies. Now scientific research proves that massage can do all that and more. In Infant Massage, McClure shares how massage benefits children--easing discomfort, releasing tension, helping premature infants gain weight, even helping asthmatic children improve breathing function. She explains each step of the massage process with simple easy-to-follow instructions and delightful photographs demonstrating each stroke. You'll also find: Specific routines tailored to help relieve colic, fever, chest and nasal congestion Modified instructions for premature infants and babies with special needs Helpful hints on dealing with crying and fussing Lullabies, rhymes, and games to enhance the massage experience Guidance for teaching children about "good touch" A special chapter dedicated to fathers Compassionate advice for foster and adoptive parents And much more From the Trade Paperback edition.

Psychosocial Capacity Building in Response to Disasters

Author: Joshua L. Miller

Publisher: Columbia University Press

ISBN: 0231519761

Category: Psychology

Page: 360

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Disaster responders treat more than just the immediate emotional and psychological trauma of victims: they empower individuals and families to heal themselves long into a disaster's aftermath. This requires helping survivors to rebuild their ability to meet their emotional and psychological needs, not only for themselves but also for others, which necessitates a careful consideration of survivors' social, economic, and political realities as their communities heal and recover. This comprehensive book integrates Western mental health approaches and international models of psychosocial capacity building within a social ecology framework, providing practitioners and volunteers with a blueprint for individual, family, group, and community interventions. Joshua L. Miller focuses on a range of disasters at local, regional, national, and international levels. Global case studies explore the social, psychological, economic, political, and cultural issues affecting various reactions to disaster and illustrate the importance of drawing on local cultural practices to promote empowerment and resiliency. Miller encourages developing people's capacity to direct their own recovery, using a social ecology framework to conceptualize disasters and their consequences. He also considers sources of vulnerability and how to support individual, family, and community resiliency; adapt and implement traditional disaster mental health interventions in different contexts; use groups and activities to facilitate recovery as part of a larger strategy of psychosocial capacity building; and foster collective grieving and memorializing. Miller's text examines the unique dynamics of intergroup conflict and the relationship between psychosocial healing, social justice, and peace and reconciliation. Each chapter ends with a mindfulness exercise, and a section reviews practitioner self-care.

Developmental Theories Through the Life Cycle

Author: Sonia G. Austrian

Publisher: Columbia University Press

ISBN: 0231513011

Category: Social Science

Page: 440

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In this bestselling textbook, contributors describe theories of normal human development advanced by such pioneers as Sigmund Freud, Anna Freud, Jean Piaget, Nancy Chodorow, Daniel Levinson, Erik Erikson, and Margaret Mahler. Beginning with infancy, toddlerhood, and preschool, each chapter examines corresponding ideologies concerning maturation and development in middle childhood, adolescence, adulthood, and old age, while acknowledging that no one theory can encompass all aspects of human development. In-depth analyses of the psychology and sociology of development provide educators and practitioners with insights into the specific social contexts of human behavior and help identify variables and deviations. This second edition features up-to-date empirical information, including additional studies on diverse populations, and a new chapter on attachment theory, a growing area of interest for today's clinicians.

The Science and Pseudoscience of Children's Mental Health: Cutting Edge Research and Treatment

Cutting Edge Research and Treatment

Author: Sharna Olfman

Publisher: ABC-CLIO

ISBN: 1440830843

Category: Psychology

Page: 189

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This book explains how studies in brain development and epigenetics—the inextricable interplay of genes and environments—have led to breakthroughs in the understanding of children's psychological disturbances and serve to discredit the scientifically unsupported "chemical imbalance theory" of mental illness. • Presents a new paradigm for understanding the cause and treatment of children's psychological disturbances based in cutting edge research on the developing brain and epigenetics • Addresses the latest groundbreaking research on the treatment of concussion syndromes as well as on the cause and treatment of autism spectrum disorders • Offers strategies that promote healthy brain development and protect against childhood psychological disturbances • Explains how 21st-century parents' excessive use of cell phones and other mobile devices undermines the quality of attachment and places children at risk for compromised brain development and psychological disturbance

When the Past Is Always Present

Emotional Traumatization, Causes, and Cures

Author: Ronald A. Ruden

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1135271755

Category: Psychology

Page: 238

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When the Past Is Always Present: Emotional Traumatization, Causes, and Cures introduces several new ideas about trauma and trauma treatment. The first of these is that another way to treat disorders arising from the mind/brain may be to use the senses. This idea, which is at the core of psychosensory therapy, forms what the author considers the "third pillar" of trauma treatment (the first and second pillars being psychotherapy and psychopharmacology). Psychosensory therapy postulates that sensory input—for example, touch—creates extrasensory activity that alters brain function and the way we respond to stimuli. The second idea presented in this book is that traumatization is encoded in the amygdala only under special circumstances. Thus, by understanding what makes an individual resistant to traumatization we can offer a way of preventing it. The third idea is that traumatization occurs because we cannot find a haven during the event. This is the cornerstone of havening, the particular form of psychosensory therapy described in the book. Using evolutionary biological principles and recently published neuroscientific studies, this book outlines in detail how havening touch de-links the emotional experience from a trauma, essentially making it just an ordinary memory. Once done, the event no longer causes distress.

Children Living in Transition

Helping Homeless and Foster Care Children and Families

Author: Cheryl Zlotnick

Publisher: Columbia University Press

ISBN: 0231536003

Category: Social Science

Page: 264

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Sharing the daily struggles of children and families residing in transitional situations (homelessness or because of risk of homelessness, being connected with the child welfare system, or being new immigrants in temporary housing), this text recommends strategies for delivering mental health and intensive case-management services that maintain family integrity and stability. Based on work undertaken at the Center for the Vulnerable Child in Oakland, California, which has provided mental health and intensive case management to children and families living in transition for more than two decades, this volume outlines culturally sensitive practices to engage families that feel disrespected by the assistance of helping professionals or betrayed by their forgotten promises. Chapters discuss the Center's staffers' attempt to trace the influence of power, privilege, and beliefs on their education and their approach to treatment. Many U.S. children living in impoverished transitional situations are of color and come from generations of poverty, and the professionals they encounter are white, middle-class, and college-educated. The Center's work to identify the influences or obstacles interfering with services for this target population is therefore critical to formulating more effective treatment, interaction, and care.

Psychoanalytic Conversations

Interviews with Clinicians, Commentators, and Critics

Author: Peter L. Rudnytsky

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1134904541

Category: Psychology

Page: 368

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In this stunning addition to what has of late become a distinct genre of psychoanalytic literature, Peter Rudnytsky presents 10 substantive and provocative interviews with leading analysts, with theorists from allied fields, and with influential Freud critics. In conversations that Rudnytsky succeeds in making psychoanalytic both in form and in content, he guides his interlocutors to unforeseen reflections on the events and forces that shaped their lives, and on the personal and intellectual grounds of their beliefs and practices. Rudnytsky, a ranking academic scholar of psychoanalysis and the humanities, approaches his subjects with not only a highly attuned third ear but also a remarkable grasp of theoretical, historical, and clinical issues. When his interviewees turn from autobiographical narratives to matters of theory and clinical practice, Rudnytsky is clear about his own intellectual allegiance to the Independent tradition of object relations theory and his admiration for John Bowlby and attachment theory. His willingness to set forth his own point of view and occasionally to press a line of questioning infuses his exchanges with an energy, even passion, heretofore unknown in the analytic interview literature. Rudnytsky consistently emerges as a partner, even an analytic partner, in dialogues that meld discovery with self-discovery. To be sure, Psychoanalytic Conversations will find many clinical and scholarly readers among those who relish a good engrossing read. But it will have special appeal to students of analysis who share Rudnytsky's belief that if psychoanalysis is to remain vital in the new century, "it can only be by expanding its horizons and learning from those who have taken it to task."

The Emotionally Focused Casebook

New Directions in Treating Couples

Author: James L. Furrow,Susan M. Johnson,Brent A. Bradley

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1136733396

Category: Psychology

Page: 416

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There is currently no single resource that compiles the various applications to the many clinical populations being served by Emotionally Focused Therapy today. The Emotionally Focused Casebook fills that void as a substantive reference for clinicians, students, professors, and supervisors using and teaching EFT. Each chapter utilizes a hands-on case study approach with concrete guidelines and illustrations for the adaptation and application of EFT with specific treatment populations. This Casebook is the perfect practical resource for professionals and students looking for examples of specific theoretical, conceptual, and treatment applications of EFT.

Child Psychotherapy

Integrating Developmental Theory into Clinical Practice

Author: Robbie Adler-Tapia, PhD

Publisher: Springer Publishing Company

ISBN: 0826106749

Category: Psychology

Page: 312

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All too often children are diagnosed and medicated without the consideration that their symptoms may actually be a healthy response to stressful life events. This integrative guide for mental health practitioners who work with children underscores the importance of considering the etiology of a child's symptoms within a developmental framework before making a diagnosis. Providing advanced training and skills for working with children, the book guides the therapist, step-by-step, through assessment, case conceptualization, and treatment with a focus on the tenets of child development and a consideration of the impact of distressing life events. The book first addresses child development and the evolution of child psychotherapy from the perspectives of numerous disciplines, including recent findings in neurodevelopmental trauma and neurobiology. It discusses assessment measures, the impact of divorce and the forensic/legal environment on clinical practice, recommendations for HIPAA compliance, evidence-based best practices for treating children, and the requirements for an integrated treatment approach. Woven throughout are indications for case conceptualization including consideration of a child's complete environment. Key Features: Provides an integrative approach to child psychotherapy from the perspective of healthy development Offers an alternative to the medical model Discusses key theories of child development and psychotherapy Integrates a multimodal approach that considers a child's daily environment Includes a template for organizing and implementing a successful practice Features an instructorís manual and course syllabus

God, Are You Nice or Mean?

Trusting God After the Orphanage

Author: Debra Delulio Jones, MEd

Publisher: WestBow Press

ISBN: 1449748244

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 110

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Through a journey of joys, tears, struggle, and hopelessness, Debra Delulio Jones found herself shaking her fist in the air and screaming, “God, are you nice or mean?” Debra and her husband, Alan, believed they were following God’s will when they adopted Dane from an orphanage in Romania in 1991. Scars of communism left their mark on this infant, and Debra searched for many years for answers for her troubled son. She found some answers, but what she didn’t expect to find was that her relationship with God was much like that of an orphaned child who didn’t really trust her adopted heavenly father. Dane didn’t know how to trust the love of his parents due to his early abandonment and attachment issues. In his confusion he would say, “Mommy, are you nice or mean?” As she learned ways to connect to her son, Debra realized a twenty year course in clinging to God paralleled her parenting journey. She came to understand that her doubts about God were rooted in fear and pain, just like her son’s maladaptive behaviors. As an adoptive mother in the role of healing parent, she gained insight into knowing God as her healer through lessons she learned in her relationship with Dane. In her transparent and humorous way, Debra shares how she went from living as a “spiritual orphan” to a trusting daughter in her daily walk with God.

Tagebuch eines Babys

was ein Kind sieht, spürt, fühlt und denkt

Author: Daniel N. Stern

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9783492218436

Category: Säugling

Page: 171

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Power: Die 48 Gesetze der Macht

Kompaktausgabe

Author: Robert Greene

Publisher: Carl Hanser Verlag GmbH Co KG

ISBN: 3446435530

Category: Political Science

Page: 256

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Mit über 200.000 verkauften Exemplaren dominierte „Power – Die 48 Gesetze der Macht“ von Robert Greene monatelang die Bestsellerlisten. Nun erscheint der Klassiker als Kompaktausgabe: knapp, prägnant, unterhaltsam. Wer Macht haben will, darf sich nicht zu lange mit moralischen Skrupeln aufhalten. Wer glaubt, dass ihn die Mechanismen der Macht nicht interessieren müssten, kann morgen ihr Opfer sein. Wer behauptet, dass Macht auch auf sanftem Weg erreichbar ist, verkennt die Wirklichkeit. Dieses Buch ist der Machiavelli des 21. Jahrhunderts, aber auch eine historische und literarische Fundgrube voller Überraschungen.

12 Rules For Life

Ordnung und Struktur in einer chaotischen Welt - Dieses Buch verändert Ihr Leben!

Author: Jordan B. Peterson

Publisher: Goldmann Verlag

ISBN: 3641239842

Category: Social Science

Page: 576

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Der Nr.1-Bestseller aus den USA: Wie man in einer von Chaos und Irrsinn regierten Welt bei Verstand bleibt! Wie können wir in der modernen Welt überleben? Jordan B. Peterson beantwortet diese Frage humorvoll, überraschend und informativ. Er erklärt, warum wir Kinder beim Skateboarden alleine lassen sollten, welches grausame Schicksal diejenigen ereilt, die alles allzu schnell kritisieren und warum wir Katzen, die wir auf der Straße antreffen, immer streicheln sollten. Doch was bitte erklärt uns das Nervensystem eines Hummers über unsere Erfolgschancen im Leben? Und warum beteten die alten Ägypter die Fähigkeit zu genauer Beobachtung als höchste Gottheit an? Dr. Peterson diskutiert Begriffe wie Disziplin, Freiheit, Abenteuer und Verantwortung und kondensiert Wahrheit und Weisheit der Welt in 12 praktischen Lebensregeln. »12 Rules For Life« erschüttert die Grundannahmen von moderner Wissenschaft, Glauben und menschlicher Natur. Dieses Buch verändert Ihr Leben garantiert!